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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

Last Updated: 17.06.2025 06:30

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

Why are people saying that Trump is fat when he is an athletic 6 foot 3 and 215 pounds?

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.

What does it mean when someone tells you they love you and want you in their life, but doesn't want to commit?

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

By taking turns talking.